In the 'good ol' days' men were men and women were women and the majority of singletons headed down the aisle in their early to mid twenties. But not today. With the many opportunities for today’s youth you don't have to stay in the same job for more that five minutes, let alone the same relationship.

We have been introduced to a barrage of Internet dating sites, speed dating evenings and inches of newspapers dedicated to helping us find the fulfilment and fun that seems to elude many of us. Why can't things be like they were before? When we understood the natural path. We thrived to meet 'the one', get married and settle down. When men were men and women were women??

Nowadays, it seems increasingly hard to find that special someone you wish to share a cup of coffee with let alone a marriage and if you are lucky enough to have met your match, you inevitably spend half the time comparing him or her to the other options available!

Our increasingly fast paced lifestyles and work schedules has meant we find it harder to find time to trust those around us as it seems more and more people prefer the single life rather than being 'tied down'. There comes a point however when we feel a certain pressure to choose, men or marriage ? Do I continue dating, keeping my options open or have I really met the one that I wish to share my life with ? How do I know ?

First of all, ask yourself why are we not anxious to rush out and find the man or woman of our dreams? The short answer is because we don’t have to!

We all face little social pressure to get married because unlike in times past it is a lot easier for a man to have a relationship with a woman and vice versa without having to say I do! Women can no longer effectively entice men with the promise of sex as an incentive for men to commit to them (thank god for that!). 

Men dread the possible consequences in the likely event the relationship does not work out. The emotional suffering caused by a break up could be devastating to men (wimps), but they express more concern for the risk of financial losses they may suffer if and when confronted with divorce proceedings. Its true!!

It is men’s nature to delay anything that can cause drastic changes to their lives. And although men have always been aware of the changes that marriage brings, they accepted them as part of the territory; “when a man marries his troubles begin.” But whether or not today’s men are aware of this old saying, one thing is certain. They are not ready to be plucked from their comfort zones and thrown into a life of

responsibility, compromise and sacrifice. And by their own admissions this is the life they believe awaits them whenever they decide to take what they consider the final plunge.