Obvious I know but, think about her!
As tempting as it may be to ask for her hand in marriage over dinner, remember this moment will be more important to her than it could ever be for you (that’s just the way it is!) and will be dissected time & again by her and her friends, so please do consider what she would really like. Think back. She has probably dropped a hint or two along the way and will appreciate any effort you make to personalise the proposal.

Timing is everything!
Just as important as how you pop the question can be when you do it. If your fiancée has always had her heart set on a Winter Wedding, you'll want to ask her about 12 - 16 months in advance to secure “the all important” venue

Public or private proposal?
Asking her to marry you at a family gathering or televised event can be exhilarating and special BUT unless you are absolutely sure she’s going to say “Yes”, think twice about this option. It's for guys who know the answer before they ask and not for those secretly hoping she won't be able to say no with an audience.

Make a memory
A little American I know, but would you consider hiring a videographer to secretly catch the proposal on film? It is an increasingly popular route these days. If all your money is gone on “the ring”, call in an early favour from your groomsman!

Don't be afraid to keep it simple!
Some guys form elaborate plans involving props like private plane, white horses, strolling violinists or even  billboards. Whilst some consider big proposals to be impressive, other consider it tacky - but heartfelt declarations of love will win her over every time, even if they take place spontaneously and without fuss. Just remember, the more elaborate the plan, the greater opportunity for something to go wrong!.

Picking the perfect spot…..
Think of places with meaning for the two of you: your first-date restaurant, the park where you met, even in the empty rooms of your new home. Or plan a destination proposal while on holidays. Popping the question in a place you can visit each year on your wedding anniversary also adds a special touch.

Restaurant
Intending to get down on one knee in a romantic restaurant? Make reservations and explain your plan to the manager or whomever is going to be in charge when you’re there so that the staff will be aware of what’s happening & will have the champers ready.

Should you ask permission?
That  really depends on you and your girlfriend. While many women think this is such a lovely tradition, others won’t be exactly impressed that you would ask her father's or a family member's 'permission' for her hand. On the other hand, most parents appreciate & respect  this tradition because it clues them in that you are about to pop the question and also shows your respect for them. Do not underestimate how important this is to parents.

“The Ring”
Many a brave man has decided to forgo buying the ring until the question has been asked so his fiancée can pick out her ring.
You could always take her “looking” for rings if you've been discussing marriage. If you're flying solo on this one, think of the jewellery she already owns and wears. You could always buy a Cubic zirconia ring and replace it with the real deal once you’ve been given approval…..

Keep the ring safe
Guys, you’re going to be parting with some serious cash for this ring so keep it in the box in a safe (and secret) place until you are certain you are ready. Planning on proposing away from home? Never check the ring with your baggage.

Editor: Whatever you decide to do, I’m sure it will be just perfect & will be a fabulous memory for you both!

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Col/SW/Feb '10