With all the stress and strain of everyday life, it can be very difficult to live in your fairytale castle with your prince charming for long periods. More than likely you will land back at your desk with a loud bang and only a packet of aspirin to see you through until 5.30pm.

It started out like the fairytale, right up until the proposal (and even that left a lot to be desired). I mean what happened to Eiffel Towers and romantic boat trips in Venice? Your local restaurant, where you had to pick a (very small but practical) diamond out of your crème Brule. Surely I deserve better than that? What happened between 3 months and three years to end up feeling like this?

The problem is ladies, we have extremly high hopes, we live on cloud nine most of the time and expect our partners to meet us up there with the perfect life. Well, let me tell you, you are going to be stood up on that cloud of yours. Cos he ain’t going to make it. More than likely he is down the pub downing a pint wondering why you got out of the bed on the wrong side this morning.

What you must do is not cry (well maybe just for a minute or two) but remember that 9 out of ten women’s job in the relationship is to keep the romance alive. I know, I know all this and we still have to plan the wedding, but it does not mean a great deal of work in order to see great results!

Keeping the passion and pizzazz of a relationship going is very important because it helps keep the relationship alive and stops people getting into a rut or taking each other for granted. With all the stress of planning a wedding that is exactly what most couples do. They forget the reason they are doing all this work and what it actually means to be making all of these decisions.

Think of the place you have always been happy together, where you first met or went on your first date. Think of lots of firsts in fact! The important thing is to remember not to have huge expectations, you have both more than likely changed as a couple since you first met so you need to realise and think of all the reasons that brought you together made you fall in love in the first place.

Once you remember these things, everyday life seems to look brighter as you understand your new path and who you have choosen it and only then can you go about your wedding plans with as much excitement and laughter as it deserves!

Who said romance is dead?!

J-

&nbs