This question isn't often asked. When a couple get engaged, it's all champagne, parties and hearty congratulations. Questions being asked like, have you set the date? How long are you together now? Where are you going to have the lavish, "better than anyone else's" reception?
Who are your bridesmaids? Where's the honeymoon going to be with everyone having a varying opinion on all aspects of same!
BUT, why are you getting married? Think about it. Just because you've been asked the question, that to be honest, so many girls dream of 'Will you marry me'?, do you have to say 'Yes'? You're agreeing to spend the rest of your life with this man/woman excluding all others. Can you really do that? Are you ready to do that? Do you want to do that?
If you're not ready to commit to this, for everyone's sake - say 'No'! It doesn't meant that you won't say 'Yes' at some stage but don't fool yourself by getting so caught up in the organising of the wedding and all that entails, that you lose the real meaning of marriage. Don’t wait for it suddenly to hit you at the altar that this is for life and not just an expensive party that you’ve invited all your family & friends too.
We're often asked as part of our Wedding Co-Ordination service, will we do the mass booklets including the readings and prayers and the answer is No! It's not because we don't want too - it's because you should.
Most couples get wedding jitters the week leading up to the wedding, and believe me, it’s better have them now and after the wedding has taken place and you’re left questioning if you’ve done the right thing.
Organising a wedding can be equated to managing a large scale event and most couples won’t have experience of doing this and do somewhat struggle. It is absolutely crucial that you take time out, as a couple, go away for an afternoon or a night together and discuss what’s important to both of you for the coming years.
Important issues to be addressed (in no particular order!)
- Do both of you want children?
- Are either of you in debt?
- Which one of you is the main “breadwinner?” Are you ok with that?